2020 and into 2021 has been a time like no other in our lifetimes. We’ve experienced loss, confusion, uncertainty, and even tremendous pain. But there have also been times of transformation, connection, and growth.
Grief is not just reserved for grieving a deceased loved one, but is felt any time there is a loss or change in trajectory.
If you have felt loss, confusion, uncertainty and a change in trajectory recently, you are not alone. Grief can feel like a dark and lonely place but it is important to know you’re not alone.
With grief, the emotions are not linear with an identifiable end point. Instead, a variety of emotions are occurring simultaneously, and each emotion should be felt, honored, processed, faced, and acknowledged. Only then will there be healing.
Grief changes us. A change in trajectory forces us to think outside the box and problem solve in novel ways. It is painful, but like a butterfly coming out of its cocoon, we grow around the pain in new ways and to our fullest potential. That is essentially and eventually resilience. Resilience doesn’t ignore the pain, but acknowledges it and adapts and grows around it.
So if you are grieving, give awareness to growth as well. Be mindful of all you feel and honor it. Hiding from it, stuffing it, ignoring it, or denying it only prolongs and complicates pain.
Challenges do not have to break us, but they can be fertile ground on which to honor what is lost, acknowledge the transition, and build a firm, new, and resilient foundation based on all that is learned and all that has grown around the grief.
Don’t let grief be a place that you stop but let it be a place of awareness, learning, and growth. There is always hope…one day at a time.
Center for Authentic Resilient Empowerment